In this story you'll get much greater insight and understanding about yourself with a potential date in the following common dating situation, whether you are a woman or man, straight or gay...
"Robert" is a caring man who is ready to meet his soulmate, get married and start a family.
Robert got invited to a large party given by his good friend Jonathan. There are a lot of people he doesn't know at the party, and he would love to meet someone special.
During the party he sees a number of attractive women, but there is one woman who keeps grabbing his attention. Her name is "Rebecca," and he finds her very interesting and appealing.
At one point Robert is standing in the spacious living room and sees Rebecca talking with a couple of her friends. As he keeps watching her, he really likes how she's being with them. She laughs easily and seems very animated and full of life!
There's just something very unique about her that Robert finds fascinating, and he would love to speak with her and get to know her.
Robert is standing there trying to get up his nerve to go over and talk with her, and he's starting to sweat a little. Because he's so interested in her the stakes feel really high and scary.
Robert is not just anxious that she might not return his interest...he's afraid that she might scornfully look him up and down and turn him down with contempt, and that would be deeply humiliating...
While Robert is still debating what to do and how to approach her, Rebecca suddenly looks over her shoulder right at him!
But then she immediately looks uncomfortable and quickly looks away...
Imagine how it makes Robert feel when he sees her look uncomfortable and quickly look away? Do you think he feels encouraged or discouraged, more likely or less likely to go talk with her now?
How do you think their story ends...
Everything is the same up until the point when the fascinating woman, Rebecca, suddenly looks over her shoulder and sees Robert looking at her.
This time she simply looks away with a neutral look on her face.
How do think that would make Robert feel?
Would he now feel encouraged or discouraged, more likely or less likely to approach her?
Would he feel an inviting welcome? What do you think he would do now?
Again, everything is the same up until the point when Rebecca suddenly looks over her shoulder and sees Robert looking at her.
This time she looks him in the eyes and smiles at him before looking away and resuming her conversation.
Now, how do you think Robert feels? Does he feel encouraged or discouraged, more likely or less likely to go talk with her? Does he feel an inviting welcome? What would happen in their story now?
This whole story has all been about the fear of rejection for both Robert and Rebecca in the different scenarios and the impact it makes on the outcome of their story.
If you are a woman or receiver, it's very helpful to understand the situation for men and initiators.
When a man sees a woman that he finds very attractive, it's often up to him to take the initiative.
Usually, he's the one who has to go over to her and try to start a conversation.
This is where his fear of rejection can make it really hard...
You see, for most men, their greatest fear in this situation is not just that they will be rejected, it's that they will be rejected with scorn or contempt!
You can imagine how humiliating that would be and how it would make the man feel like dirt.
Most women wouldn't actually do that, but it's a man's greatest fear anyway.
And, every once in a while, a woman actually will respond that way, so it's not completely unfounded!
This fear of being painfully rejected can be so strong that it can prevent a man from approaching a woman at all.
Even if he is brave enough to approach her, his fear can make him act very awkward and insecure and ruin any chance of making a good impression on her...
You can see why it was so hard for Robert to approach this fascinating woman!
Rebecca looks uncomfortable and quickly looks away. Robert would likely feel discouraged and even rejected in advance.
Combined with his fear of rejection it's very unlikely that he would approach her now.
Rebecca looked away with no expression on her face, which was ambiguous. What did that mean? What was going on for her? It's hard to tell.
She certainly wouldn't come across as friendly and inviting in any case.
Depending on how strong Robert's fear of rejection was, he may or may not have the courage to approach her at this point. It would tend to feel fairly high risk to him, which would make him extra nervous.
Even if he was brave enough to approach her, his extra nervousness would make it harder for things to go well.
Rebecca looked Robert in the eyes and smiled before looking away. This felt warm, friendly and inviting, and Robert would now feel that that the risk of being rejected was low.
He felt welcome to come talk with her and so he did!
You can see that how Rebecca reacted to Robert had a huge impact on how he felt and how likely he would be to come talk with her.
Men tend to be very aware that they have a fear of rejection. As soon as they just think of talking with an appealing woman, they get slammed with it, so it's obvious to them.
In my experience with many clients, women often don't recognize that they have a fear of rejection...
I'll be talking with female clients about how they feel around a man that they are interested in, and they'll say things like:
Can you relate to any of those feelings? If so, then where are those feelings coming from?
They come from these underlying fearful questions:
These questions are the fear of rejection in disguise.
The bottom line of all of these questions is, "What if he doesn't like me? I'm afraid he will...reject me."
You see, it's the fear of rejection that makes you feel self-conscious, hard to be yourself, go blank or feel awkward.
Women actually experience the fear of rejection just as much as men do when they meet a man they find really attractive.
The dating situation for women tends to be different than for men/initiators. While some women feel comfortable approaching a man to talk with him, the majority of women don't.
However, a woman doesn't have to be completely passive, hoping that a man that she is interested in will approach her. There is something very simple that she can do...
Now, I'm not talking about learning how to "flirt" or be coy or any type of unnatural or "game playing" strategies.
It's very important for a woman to be her natural self.
The very simple thing that she can do to encourage a man she likes to come talk to her...is to make eye contact and smile, like the third scenario in the story.
This is a very simple and clear way to convey friendliness and openness to a man.
It's simple, but it can be very scary depending on how afraid a woman is of rejection.
If a woman finds a man very attractive and appealing, she is just as likely to feel an intense fear of rejection as the man would.
The idea of looking in a man's eyes and smiling can feel very vulnerable.
What if he doesn't like her? What if he frowns or quickly looks away. That could feel very rejecting to her and potentially humiliating.
Also, even if the man does come talk to her without her doing anything, if she has a strong fear of rejection, she'll have a hard time being comfortable and natural.
She may avoid eye contact, act nervous and insecure or just freeze up all together and not be able to say much.
These things could ruin any chance of them having a beautiful, romantic connection.
On the other hand, as a woman, you don't have to just wait for a man to approach you.
If there is a man that you would love to talk to, there are a couple of nice ways for you to initiate contact:
Both of these actions open the door to starting a conversation with a man that you find attractive in a way that is encouraging for the man and feels natural.
However, again, imagine how hard these simple approaches would be to do if you have a strong fear of rejection...
In the story we went through earlier, what you didn't know was that Rebecca had actually seen Robert earlier and found him appealing too.
At one point while talking with her friends, she felt someone looking at her and looked over her shoulder and saw that it was Robert!
Her own fear of rejection was so strong that she immediately felt a surge of fear when she saw him looking at her, which made her quickly look away feeling very uncomfortable.
Her obvious discomfort and quickly looking away gave Robert the impression that she didn't like him looking at her. He didn't realize it was actually because she liked him!
So, instead he felt discouraged from talking with her.
He was already feeling scared to begin with and this was the last straw. He never talked with her at the party.
Her fear of rejection was not quite as strong, so she just looked away while trying not to let her fear show, which made her look emotionally neutral on the outside.
This left Robert not knowing how she felt, which was not encouraging. He felt no invitation to come talk with her. Whether or not he would approach her at this point would depend on how brave he was feeling.
Robert felt a warm, friendly and encouraging invitation. This helped him overcome his fear, and they had a wonderful conversation!
In this story, there were so many ways that the fear of rejection on either side could have prevented them from coming together...
In fact, that's the case most of the time for most people!
The bottom line is that both men and women, initiators and receivers, face the fear of rejection in their own ways in these dating situations.
Their fear of rejection can prevent them from talking with each other at all, or it can sabotage their ability to have a great, romantic connection.
As an initiator or receiver, could you relate to either side of the story and how much your own fear of rejection has been impacting your love life?
In my experience with my clients, the fear of rejection is the #1 dating fear sabotaging singles when meeting new people and going on dates!
In fact, MOST people have a fear of rejection to at least some degree. For many people it's so strong that it holds them back a lot. Often it completely sabotages their ability to connect!
Think of the countless missed opportunities that your fear of rejection has caused. Sometimes, it's amazing that people are able to get together at all...
Let's try a quick little exercise. I invite you to take a moment and imagine that a man or woman who has everything that you are looking for in a partner is standing right in front of you smiling.
Now notice what your first emotional reaction is to the presence of this amazing person (this may be easier to do with your eyes closed).
You'll get a lot more out of this if you stop and do the quick exercise before continuing to read...
The first reaction that most people have is the fearful question...
"What if he or she doesn't like me?"
This is the fear of rejection, which comes up extra strongly when faced with a potentially great partner.
and being relaxed and comfortable in your own skin. It's easy to meet that person's eyes and just be yourself...with confidence.
You're having fun, and you're not worried about whether or not your date likes you.
Instead, you're just noticing how you feel on the date and whether or not you like him or her!
Healing your fear of rejection will finally eliminate the biggest block holding you back when meeting and dating exciting people!
I know what it's like to suffer from the fear of being rejected when meeting new people and going on dates.
For years I was painfully aware of my countless lost opportunities where I was either too afraid to even approach an exciting woman or made a complete mess of things when I was brave enough to go for it.
When going out on a date, I often sabotaged myself by "trying to impress the woman" or "win her approval."
I did this by either trying to tell her what a great guy I was, or I became a selfless listener and put myself totally at her disposal doing whatever she wanted so that my true self wasn't participating in the date!
As you can imagine, all of these behaviors were a complete turn-off to my date. In fact, I probably made every mistake a person could make on a date, and there usually wasn't a second one...
It was only when I was on a date with a woman that I wasn'tinterested that I could relax and be myself. Of course, in this case I wasn't afraid of being rejected by her.
I was then often in the position of having to gently turn her down since my date would become interested in me.
It was so frustrating to mess things up with the women I was interested in and only be "successful" with the women I wasn't interested in!
After each bad dating experience I would beat myself up and feel like a total loser. It was so discouraging and depressing...
After a couple hundred of these experiences and continuing to work on myself, one day I had a huge breakthrough in my awareness that gave me a radical new way of seeing things and helped me overcome my fear of rejection...
...and it completely transformed my dating life!
I was now able to approach an appealing woman with ease without worrying about how she would respond.
I was also totally relaxed and confident and had fun on all of my dates! Dating became a whole new wonderful experience for me!
I don't want you to miss out on any more opportunities for love!
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It then uses the magic of EFT Tapping to gently bring your heart in alignment with your new perception so that you can let go of your fear of rejection and date with confidence!
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Stefan's Fearless Dating! program was eye opening and mind blowing.
All my life I was afraid of being rejected. Therefore I was living to please men so they would accept and love me. I ended up having very dysfunctional relationships where I was taken advantage of.
Looking for my soulmate I was also afraid of making anyone feel rejected, so I was putting myself in awkward situations where I was going on dates with guys that I wasn't interested in romantically.
After using the Fearless Dating! program and a few tapping sessions on my own, I feel free of that wrong belief, and I can date who I really want to date!
I can tell any guy that I am interested or not without any guilt! And I can take it when a guy expresses no interest in me. I was just not the right person for him and that's fine.
I am so much more comfortable and confident now! Isabella
A key element of the Fearless Dating! program is that is uses the magic of "EFT" to quickly help you overcome your fear of rejection once and for all.
However, you may not already know what EFT (also known as the "Emotional Freedom Technique") is...
EFT is a powerful, easy-to-learn self-help tool that works like “emotional acupressure” to rapidly relieve negative emotions, fears, and limiting beliefs.
It is extremely effective for healing the fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck and single.
I have been Tapping for years and have found it to be a pivotal tool in creating the life of my dreams. Jack Canfield, Co-Author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series
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EFT is a wonderful tool that you will be to use in many areas of your life!
"Helping me release my fear of rejection is a big deal, so it seems like Fearless Dating! should cost more than just $47. This makes me wonder if the Fearless Dating! product is any good?"
I get this question a lot (or just big smiles when I mention the price). My original plan was to charge $97 for this product, which would be more reasonable.
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This way, you would have confidence about the other products and programs that I offer when you are ready to address your deepest blocks to attracting and keeping the Love of your life...
In a word...Yes!
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