The 3 Secrets to Attracting Amazing Love - Lesson 2

Dear Wonderful Seeker of Love,

Welcome to the second lesson of the 3 Secrets to Attracting Amazing Love mini-course! If you missed Lesson 1, click the link to read Lesson 1 now.

Susan's Story

In lesson one of this mini-course, we talked about how common it is for us to be attracted to the wrong people...people with the worst negative traits of our parents.

Let me tell you about a woman who struggled her entire life to find a good man she could love and who would love her back. We'll call her "Susan."

It All Started When Susan Was a Child

"Mom was great, but she was stretched pretty thin" Susan told me. "She had a full-time job, took care of the house, both kids, and my father.

I always felt that she loved me, but she didn't have a lot of time for me.

"I really admired my Dad. He was a professor and worked very hard. On weeknights, he usually came home late and tired.

He would first want to relax, read the paper and watch the news. Then he would hole up in his office and work on writing his articles. It was Mom who put us to bed.

"On weekends, he would sometimes play in the backyard with us. I remember him picking me up and swinging me around while I giggled and screamed. He would joke around and act silly and make us laugh.

"I loved those moments, but they were so short and infrequent. He had so many other interests.

"Often when I was little I would ask my Daddy to come play with me, but he would usually say 'Not now, honey, maybe later.'

I loved my father so much, but I always longed to have more of his love and attention."

One Painful Disappointment After Another

Susan had a very frustrating love life. "I would meet these men who were smart, funny and playful, but I always felt like I came in second (or third or fourth!) to my boyfriends' other interests" she told me.

"The men I got involved with never wanted to be with me as much as I wanted to be with them. I always felt so unloved!"

Along Came Robert

After many heartbreaking relationships, she finally met a very different kind of man. We'll call him "Robert."

"When we first started dating, we would go on these incredibly romantic walks in the woods, holding hands like teenagers" she told me. "I would pack a picnic lunch, and we would fall asleep under a huge oak tree.

"Robert had everything I was looking for in a man. He was smart, funny, playful, and my heart melted just to look at him.

"But what I loved most about Robert was how much he wanted to be with me and how romantic and loving he was!

Our relationship felt magical, and I couldn't believe how lucky I was to be with a guy like him!"

Susan and Robert got together several times a week and would often go on romantic getaways on weekends.

After being together several months, Susan felt like she had finally found the man of her dreams.

And Then Something Changed...

One Friday Susan excitedly brought up the idea of planning a fun adventure together. "How about we take a trip to Martha's Vinyard this weekend? It would be so yummy to stay at a B&B, ride our bicycles around the island, and visit the quaint shops."

"I really wish I could, but my top client dropped a bomb on me today, and I'm going to have to spend most of the weekend trying to get his work done for Monday. Maybe we could go to Martha's Vinyard next weekend?"

Susan got very hurt and accused Robert, "Your work is more important than me!"

Robert felt very bad about this and bent over backwards to reassure Susan that, of course, he loved her more than his work.

After a 20 minutes of reassurances, kisses and tears, Susan felt better, but Robert was left feeling uncomfortable. Susan hadn't been very understanding of his work situation, and he felt unfairly accused.

Robert's feelings of discomfort faded over the next few days but still lingered in the background. When they got together, he seemed just a bit distracted and not quite as affectionate as before.

Susan started feeling more and more anxious. "After a while I just started snapping at him for no reason." Susan said. "I couldn't seem to stop myself, and things got worse and worse."

As time went on Robert became less available for weekend adventures together, and he seemed more and more reserved and distant.

"I don't know what happened. In the beginning, things were so perfect, and then Robert started acting just like all of my past boyfriends!" Susan sobbed. "I can't believe that I'm back in the same place again! Please help!"

So, What Became of Susan and Robert?

What happened to Susan and Robert's wonderful relationship? Things started out so well in the beginning, but now they seem to be on a dangerous downward slide.

Were Susan and Robert able to pull things back together? Find out in tomorrow's lesson...

With love,

Stefan Gonick
Soulmate Attraction Mentor and Expert EFT Practitioner